By Yang Laidi I’m Yang Laidi, sixty-two years old this year. In 1985, because my husband had health problems, our […]
Say Goodbye to Inferiority; Regain Confidence
In my childhood, I felt particularly inferior for my dark skin and thought I looked different from others. When I grew up, I always heard people say, “A white complexion is powerful enough to hide seven faults,” and I was even more dissatisfied with my dark skin and always complained why my skin was not white, thinking that if it were white, I could be beautiful. Because of this, I felt more and more inferior, and the inferiority became a psychological shadow to me.
Summer is girls’ favorite season. But I dislike it most, because I was afraid that I would get darker and darker in the burning sun and also afraid that I would be looked down upon by others for my exposed dark skin. My friends said that my clothes were too simple and not in. I did want to dress beautifully, but as I was so dark, whatever I wore was the same to me, and I wouldn’t look nice. I always sighed at the self in the mirror, and also took the dark skin as my greatest flaw. In my mind, if I could be white, I would be more beautiful, and everything would be better. So, I was willing to give everything in exchange for a whiter skin. To make my skin whiter was the most important thing in my life. For this reason, I would spend everything. I tried various kinds of whitening products and whitening folk prescriptions. Although I spent much money and time on it, the effect was little. Even so, I still didn’t want to give up. As long as I heard the word “whitening,” I would pay close attention to it and would be rushing for getting beautiful….
It had been so until one day when I read , “Since the creation of the world, I have predestined and chosen this group of people, that is, you of today. Your disposition, qualities, appearance, and stature, the family you were born into, and your job and marriage, your everything, even the color of your hair, the color of your skin, and the time of your birth, are all arranged by My hand. Even what you will do and what kind of people you will meet every day are also arranged by My hand. How much more is it arranged by Me that you have been brought before Me today. Do not disturb yourself but go forward unperturbedly. What I let you enjoy is your deserved portion and is what I have long predestined since the creation of the world.” (from The Word Appears in the Flesh) After reading God’s word, I suddenly saw the light. Actually people’s complexion, appearance, and quality, and so on, have long been ordained by God. But I stubbornly tried to change it. As a result, though I made a mess of my life, the effect of getting a white skin was not achieved. Later, I read God’s word, “…God’s plan is perfect, that His power and wisdom are perfect, and that it is only by His authority that such perfection can be accomplished. When we perform a task, can we say that, like God, we see that it is good? Can everything that we do accomplish perfection? Can we complete something once and for all eternity? Just as people say, ‘nothing’s perfect, only better,’ nothing that we do can attain perfection. When God saw that all that He had done and achieved was good, everything made by God was set by His words, which is to say that, when ‘God saw that it was good,’ all that He had made assumed a permanent form, was ordered according to type, and was given a fixed position, purpose, and function, once and for all eternity. Moreover, their role among all things, and the journey that they must take during God’s management of all things, had already been ordained by God, and were immutable. This was the ‘heavenly law’ given by the to all things.”
“‘God saw that it was good,’ these simple, underappreciated words, so often ignored, are the words of the heavenly law and heavenly edict given to all creatures by God. They are another embodiment of the Creator’s authority, one that is more practical, and more profound. …”
“… As the miraculous deeds of God manifested themselves, this world swelled, piece by piece, with all of the things created by God, and it changed from chaos and darkness into clarity and brightness, from deathly stillness to liveliness and limitless vitality. Among all things of creation, from the great to the small, from the small to the microscopic, there was none which was not created by the authority and power of the Creator, and there was a unique and inherent necessity and value to the existence of each creature. Regardless of the differences in their shape and structure, they had but to be made by the Creator to exist under the authority of the Creator. … In the thoughts of God, He intended to give each and every appearance, and all sorts of functions and uses, to the various living things He created, and so none of the things God made were cut from the same mold. From their exterior to their internal composition, from their living habits to the location that they occupy—each is different. Cows have the appearance of cows, donkeys have the appearance of donkeys, deer have the appearance of deer, and elephants have the appearance of elephants. Can you say which is the best looking, and which is the ugliest? Can you say which is the most useful, and the existence of which is the least necessary? Some people like the way elephants look, but no one uses elephants to plant fields; some people like the way lions and tigers look, for their appearance is the most impressive amongst all things, but can you keep them as pets? In short, when it comes to all things, man should defer to the authority of the Creator. Which is to say, the wisest attitude is one of deference to the order appointed by the Creator to all things. Only an attitude of searching for, and obedience to, the original intentions of the Creator is the true acceptance and certainty of the authority of the Creator. For it is good with God, and so what reason does man have to find fault?”(from Continuation of The Word Appears in the Flesh)
God’s word gave me great consolation and confidence and let me know God’s authority is perfect. All things God created are good in God’s eyes. My appearance and complexion are predestined by God, and God regards everything He made as good. God says, “… Among all things of creation, from the great to the small, from the small to the microscopic, there was none which was not created by the authority and power of the Creator, and there was a unique and inherent necessity and value to the existence of each creature. …” (from Continuation of The Word Appears in the Flesh) Since I come to this world, there must be the necessity of my existence. Why do I always submerge in my perceived “defect” and make myself so miserable? Why don’t I obey the Creator’s predestination for me and treasure what I have and enjoy the happiness of life?
Now I am no longer distressed for my dark skin and say goodbye to the troubles of getting a whiter skin. My life becomes easy and happy. I don’t feel inferior for my dark skin and don’t hate summer anymore. All the change is because of God’s word, “For it is good with God, and so what reason does man have to find fault?”
Friends, are you still distressed for your perceived defects?
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