By Yang Laidi I’m Yang Laidi, sixty-two years old this year. In 1985, because my husband had health problems, our […]
Man’s Marriage Is Within the Ordination of the Creator
I was born into a poor family. When I was a child, my parents often quarreled with each other because of trifles in life. Whenever I was faced with the situation, I would feel afraid at heart and then cry aside, not knowing what to do.
In the course of my growth, there are many families around me in which couples often quarrel with each other, betray each other, or even divorce because of something displeasing to them. I often thought to myself: Since you choose to marry him or her, why are you so dissatisfied about it? For that reason, I got doubtful about marriage in my heart. … Imperceptibly, I began to plan for what kind of person I would marry, how to be a good wife and mother, and how to manage my marriage, for I really did not want to have a marriage like my parents’, full of quarrels due to financial straits and unhappiness in life. So, whenever I thought of that scene, I would be fearful and terrified. In my view, marriage should be happy and warm, and a couple should bear with and be considerate of each other. … However, why do lots of couples always quarrel with each other in their married life?
Unknowingly, I reached the age of marriage. At that time, there were also some men coming to my home to propose marriage, but every time I refused with the excuse that I was still young. I knew that marriage is a great event in one’s life. However, not knowing what kind of person I would marry, I couldn’t help feeling a bit worried in my heart. In the fall of 2000, through the introduction of my colleague, I knew my present husband. At that time, because his family conditions were not good and because he had many brothers and sisters, aged parents, and was short, my family and relatives were rather unsatisfied with him. But I was still determined to marry him. After getting married, we bore with each other and were affectionate, harmonious, and considerate of each other. My husband was a reasonable and family-centered person. Although his family conditions were not good, we seldom quarreled because of that. He showed great care for me and managed our family diligently. So, I was very grateful and thought that maybe that was the arrangement of God.
Later, I was fortunate to accept ’s end-time . Almighty God says, “One encounters many people in one’s life, but no one knows who will become one’s partner in marriage. Though everyone has their own ideas and personal stances on the subject of marriage, no one can foresee who will finally become their true other half, and one’s own notions count for little. After meeting a person you like, you can pursue that person; but whether he or she is interested in you, whether he or she is able to become your partner, is not yours to decide. The object of your affections is not necessarily the person with whom you will be able to share your life; and meanwhile someone you never expected quietly enters your life and becomes your partner, becomes the most important element in your fate, your other half, to whom your fate is inextricably bound.” (from Continuation of The Word Appears in the Flesh)
After reading Almighty , I understood that every marriage has long been ordained by God, and we can’t control and choose our marriage or obtain our dream marriage by means of human effort. Measured against the actual marriages, I found that they are precisely like what Almighty God says, “…though there are millions of marriages in the world, every one is different: how many marriages are unsatisfactory, how many are happy; how many span East and West, how many North and South; how many are perfect matches, how many are of equal rank; how many are happy and harmonious, how many painful and sorrowful; how many are the envy of others, how many are misunderstood and frowned upon; how many are full of joy, how many are awash of tears and cause despair….” (from Continuation of The Word Appears in the Flesh) Only then did I understand the reason why there are so many disappointments, helplessness, and frustrations in our marriage…. It turns out that there is always God’s arrangement in it.
Almighty God says, “Under the ’s sovereignty, two unrelated people who share a related fate gradually enter into a marriage and become, miraculously, a family, ‘two locusts clinging to the same rope.’ So when one enters into a marriage, one’s journey in life will influence and touch upon one’s other half, and likewise one’s partner’s journey in life will influence and touch upon one’s fate in life. In other words, human fates are interconnected, and no one can fulfill one’s mission in life or perform one’s role completely independently from others. One’s birth has a bearing on a huge chain of relationships; growing up also involves a complex chain of relationships; and similarly, a marriage inevitably exists and maintains in a vast and complex web of human connections, involving every member and influencing the fate of everyone who is a part of it. A marriage is not the product of both members’ families, the circumstances in which they grew up, their appearances, their ages, their qualities, their talents, or any other factors; rather, it arises from a shared mission and a related fate. This is the origin of marriage, a product of human fate orchestrated and arranged by the Creator.” (from Continuation of The Word Appears in the Flesh) After reading Almighty God’s words, I know that behind the marriage there is always a mission for each of us. Through reading Almighty God’s words, I begin to do justice to my marriage and gradually put down all kinds of doubts and puzzles regarding marriage.
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